Does gratefulness have any correlation to mental strength?
Forbes contributor Cheryl Conner recently expanded on another’s list of thirteen things that mentally strong people don’t do. She tailored the characteristics to entrepreneurs, who particularly can use mental strength, but the ideas seem helpful for anyone who desires to thrive in life.
The list is strongly compatible with an attitude of gratefulness, while a sense of entitlement seems to underlie the negative side of the descriptions.
Unfortunately, it is easy to fall into many of those negative traps: feeling sorry for oneself, dwelling on the past, resenting the success of others, or perhaps feeling that the world owes one something. However, Conner notes that mentally strong people get over their problems. They take responsibility for their own actions and don’t let the behavior of others (that they can’t control) get under their skin. They even embrace change and take risks.
“You don’t see mentally strong people feeling sorry for their circumstances or dwelling on the way they’ve been mistreated. They have learned to take responsibility for their actions and outcomes, and they have an inherent understanding of the fact that frequently life is not fair. They are able to emerge from trying circumstances with self-awareness and gratitude for the lessons learned. When a situation turns out badly, they respond with phrases such as ‘Oh, well.’ Or perhaps simply, ‘Next!'”
Such an attitude is refreshing, but do we see enough of this gratefulness for difficulties today? Or are we too swallowed up by a sense of entitlement that we miss any opportunities for personal growth our problems do offer us?
>>Source: Conner, Cheryl. “Mentally Strong People: The 13 Things They Avoid.” Forbes. 18 Nov. 2013.